The effects of divorce on children are well documented. In some cases, the end of a marriage can be the best decision for a husband and wife; nevertheless children are always affected by the idea of the end of a marriage, whether they are young kids or grown up adults. The psychological stability that is linked to having both parents at home is linked to societal expectations, and when parents split many children feel that they come from a broken home. The effects of this on their self esteem and their future relationships are both short term and long term.
To find out more information about the effects of divorce on children it is best to speak to a child psychologist. They will be aware of how a broken home can impact on young kids. Common effects include inability to sleep, feelings of guilt or responsibility for the divorce, anger at one or both parents, feelings of confusion and sadness. These emotions will reveal themselves at different stages, much like the seven stages associated with most traumatic experiences. As children grow it is likely that they will come to understand the reasons behind their parents’ decision and often they come to respect this. If a divorce is important to you as a parent, give your child a chance to be angry, because if it is for the right reasons in the long term they will be grateful to you.
If you are a parent who is considering divorcing your husband or wife, it is important to recognise that you will also be affected by this change. Having to deal with the difficulties of child custody hearings and maintenance court is not easy, and it is important that you seek counselling so that you do not take out your stress on your family. Just remember that sometimes the effects of staying in an unhappy marriage are worse than the effects of divorce on children.