Divorce settlement agreements are not always easy to come by with an ex couple who claim to hate each other and can’t fathom why they ever got married in the first place. If there are children caught in the middle of this, the procedure becomes more complicated as then custody needs to be given to one parent in court. If any parent has a history of domestic violence, the children will be given to the other parent who seems to be more of the “fit” parent. Legal advice is always necessary in a situation like this, and this is where you will need a really good lawyer to give you tips and advice and to fight for you.
If you and your ex are able to come to an agreement on your own, it will make the procedure a little less stressful, but you often need a lawyer to determine who should have custody over the children and all the rest. Just remember that if you and your ex both have a history of domestic violence and should the court find that neither of you are capable of looking after your kids, there is a possibility that they will given over to the welfare. You should have no doubt in your mind that you are a good parent, but it might be better for you to obtain legal advice and tips from your lawyer, just to prepare you.
Sometimes it is not an easy decision for the judge to make, and if both parents seem to be fully capable, he might rule with joint custody. Other issues like the contents of the home that you shared, the vehicles you owned and any other properties you might own; all that also comes into the picture and if you were married in community of property, everything will be split; divorce settlement agreements will state that you have to share everything with your ex husband or wife.